Wednesday, August 17, 2011

The balancing act

Okay, so how do you do it?  I mean seriously.  It doesn't matter how hard I try I just cant keep all the balls in the air at the same time.  I can not get all the plates to balance at the same time.  Something always has to give.  So, what has to give?  How do you decided where to put your priorities?  I mean there are always the priorities that you know you have to keep.  But then there still seems to be this other long list of priorities that you have to decide between.

Life is getting crazy again.  School, work, callings, sports, house cleaning, shopping, personal time etc...  I just cant seem to get a handle on it.  And it seems that what always has to give is my personal time.  Well, I just cant give it away anymore.  I am falling apart here!  I am tired of never having time for myself.  It always seems that what gives is either exercise or down time for me.  Because everyone else needs so many things from me, so that they can continue on with all they have to do.  So, when do I get to do just one or two of the things that I want and need to do?  Now, I might sound like I am whining, and maybe I am but I really need to start letting go and actually being a bit more demanding about things around here.  Probably my biggest problem is that my kids seem to think that if chores dont get done, it's okay because Mom will do them.  Well, if and when I start working I'm not going to be abel to do them. I used to look forward to the kids going back to school because at least my house would stay clean while they were gone.  But when I get a job again, a full time job, I will not be home to clean up behind them anymore.

I've been trying for years to get these boys to take their chores seriously.  But, with everyone being so busy doing other extracuriicular activities, there never seems to be a long enough period of time where it ever becomes a habit.  But honestly, I think if I could just get the kids to do this one thing...."CHORES"...consistently, I think I would be a happy girl!  I would be able to function.  I would be able to keep up with all that I have to do plus take a bit of time for myself to exercise, read, or do something relaxing for me!  So, do you think it is possible?  Do you think I could sit my family down and explain all this to them and they would actually get it?  Well, I'm gonna try once again.  Maybe they have grown old enough now that they will?..........One can always hope!


  1. sob..that works for me..when they see how frustrated and mad i am, nobody wants to see that whole side of me..try it, it just might work..P.s. the crying is real..I don't fake that stuff..good luck..let me know how it works out..

  2. havent tried the crying thing yet....too busy being just plain old mad! plus for me it seems the crying is just a temporary fix. when they see that i'm okay again, they slip into old habits. I think the real test is going to be when I start working again. Stay tuned....I'll figure this one out! Thanks for the advice!