Monday, July 23, 2012

Raising kids, it's good therapy!

Okay, have you ever noticed that raising kids is like going through therapy?  I've been thinking about this alot lately. It seems that when the kids were young I constantly thought about how I reacted so much like one or the other of my parents in each situation that I handled and it forced me to make conscious choices and to set goals about how I would do things differently with them.  I learned so much about children and about what shapes their character and who they become.  I also learned that each of my children had such different personalities and abilities and gifts and that so much of who they turned out to be would depend on what we did with each of these characteristics.  I learned so much about myself and what kind of child I was and what had shaped me.

Now that my children are so much older and they are growing into adults, it's happening again.  It is so therapeutic for me.  I dont know why.  Probably because I am able to advise them on how to handle their choices better than I did.  My kids are so much more wise and on the ball than I was at their ages.  Yet I can see myself in each one of them.  It is so satisfying as we analyze together each situation and I feel this weight lifted from the "what ifs" of my past life.  And I am blessed with the vision of the "whys" and "why nots".  It is very freeing and awesome to see so clearly now what the Lord really had in store for me all along. 

I love my kids more than anything in this world.  They are everything I dreamed they would be and more.  They inspire me to be a better person.  I am so blessed to have been chosen to be their mother.  What an awesome privilege!  The Lord's plan is so perfect and all encompassing. 

"Still learning about myself"!

1 comment:

  1. Sometimes my kids have caused me to go into Therapy..just kidding..(kinda)..can't imagine what life would be like without them..they keep me going, that is for sure! Ditto to all you said :)